I don’t actually like talking about my personal life that much, and yet the following anecdote seems significant.
I was young when my parents got divorced, but I remember one thing in particular. I remember sitting in the living room, and my mother was in the living room with some of her friends. I couldn’t give you the exact details of the conversation, but there was one quote which has stuck with me all these years: “sometimes the threat of violence is more dangerous than the act itself.”
It’s a flawed statement, and I know that. She knows that, too. But the intent of the message was the same - you shouldn’t stick around to see if someone is going to hit you. If you think they are, you should get out, assuming, of course, that you can.
It seems so straightforward. In some ways, it is human nature, too - the fight or flight response is a part of our basic instinct. If we think there is a chance of us being “right”, of winning, we stay. If we suspect we cannot win from the very beginning, we flee. It’s human nature. It’s basic survival skills.
I’m sure Finchel fans would argue that Finn Hudson would never be physically violent towards Rachel Berry. He loves her. He called her his “future wife”. They’re “endgame”, after all. They belong together. He said so himself.
And that’s kind of the problem.
It’s always been about Finn Hudson, and very rarely about Rachel Berry. But first I want to go back to the claim that Hudson would never be physically violent towards Berry. Finchel fans would argue we can’t say for sure that he would be physically violent. However, with all due respect, they cannot argue that he wouldn’t be.
Finn Hudson has a temper. Okay. We’ve all “lost” it at a certain point in our lives.
However, I’m not sure we could all argue that we have tried to physically throw someone out of a wheelchair (“Prom-asaurus”). I’m also not sure we could argue that we have literally beaten someone up (“Feud”, “Sectionals”).
We have all lost our temper at some point in our lives. I do not believe we have all beaten someone up as a result of losing our temper.
And I do not believe that if we do, it is ever excusable.
Glee is probably one of the most hypocritical shows on television right now. It likes to preach a lot of things - tolerance, acceptance, self-belief, independence - but the reality is quite different.
Gee practices tolerance and acceptance, so long as what you are tolerating and accepting is that Glee is always right.
There is underlying message that you have to believe that Glee’s message is the only message worth listening to. I find that particularly troublesome, because as a general rule, this blog believes in dialogue, and yet Glee closes the door to such: you either believe that what Glee is saying is the universal truth, or Glee doesn’t want you. There is no acceptance on their part. There is no grey area. Glee is always right, and we are always supposed to accept that.
We humbly and respectfully dissent.
Violence is violence - it should be treated and condemned as such across the board. Glee is not in a position to excuse certain actions - particularly those of Finn Hudson’s - under the grounds that the character is “morally right”. Likewise, his actions should not be excused under the premise that he is beating up Brody West (Dean Geyer) to defend Rachel Berry (Lea Michele).
If Finn Hudson tried to throw Quinn Fabray (Dianna Agron) out of her wheelchair because he assumed she was “lying” about being able to stand up, and beat up Brody West while telling him to “stay away from [his] future wife!”, I cannot quite understand why we are supposed to believe he would never go after Rachel Berry in a physical manner.
Is it because he “loves” her, but did not love Fabray and West?
I’m not entirely sure why that argument is supposed to be convincing, much less reassuring.
Domestic violence happens. It happens to the ones you love. If Hudson lost it towards those he didn’t love (Fabray and West), as we keep saying, where is our assurance that he wouldn’t go after Berry?
Love, I hate to break it to Finchel fans, is not a shield against a fist.
We’ve used the phrase “if Glee were a better written show” numerous times on this blog. If Glee were a better written show x or y wouldn’t have happened. If Glee were a better written show this plot wouldn’t have played out this way or this character wouldn’t have acted out that way. There is a lot of “if Glee were a better written show”.
It is not.
Glee is not particularly well written.
It seems redundant to say that. Unless you’re Lea Michele, I don’t think anyone would actually claim Glee is well written. It has flaws.
Actually, it’s not just that the show has flaws that means Glee’s writing isn’t up to par. It’s what the writing is telling us that makes Glee deserving of its tag.
The way the fight scene was written - in fact, the way this whole storyline was written - made it quite clear that we are supposed to see Finn Hudson as “the good guy”. Finn Hudson has been wronged - Will Schuester was unfairly isolating him! Finn Hudson was defending Rachel Berry’s actions - how romantic!
Except that Finn Hudson did kiss Emma Pillsbury in an incredibly sexist move to “calm her down” because she was “hysterical” before the wedding - good thing there was a man to calm her down, and no female characters around! Finn Hudson was the misunderstood hero. The camera angles, song selection, and scene directions made it very clear we as an audience were meant to side with Finn Hudson. He is, as Glee repeatedly tells us, the good guy.
Good guys, apparently, fly across the country to beat up their ex-girlfriend’s boyfriend because he should stay away from his future wife.
It was Finn Hudson’s actions.
Noticeably absent from all of this was Rachel Berry.
Apparently, since she is a woman, she doesn’t get a say in any of this. She doesn’t get a say in Hudson’s future plans, because we are meant to believe Hudson when he claims they have “dangerous musical chemistry” or that they are “endgame”. As such, we are meant to believe she will be his future wife.
Whether or not Rachel Berry wants to choose him is irrelevant. Finn Hudson has chosen her. We are meant, therefore, to root against any character who stands in his way.
Brody West was sleeping around. Hudson was protecting Berry’s virtue. Berry was, as we keep saying, not a part of this conversation, because as an audience we are meant to listen to Finn Hudson. Berry should just listen to Finn Hudson, because he knows best.
The implication, therefore, is that Berry doesn’t know best. The implication is that we don’t know best.
Berry literally doesn’t know what’s best for her - luckily she has Santana Lopez snooping around, ready to discover Brody’s dirty secret! She doesn’t get a voice, because there are others around to speak for her. Unfortunately, we’re not exactly convinced that Lopez has the right voice. Yes, she refers to Hudson as that “flop ex”. Props for the hint of contempt, we think.
It would have held up, if Lopez hadn’t called Hudson to help “sort” Brody out.
It was the wrong call. It was absolutely, 100 percent the wrong call.
It was the wrong call because it was, quite frankly, not Hudson’s call to make. Hudson is not a part of Berry’s New York lifestyle. Hudson does not belong in New York. As such, Hudson shouldn’t have a say in who Berry is seeing in New York, much less what her boyfriend is doing.
He is not dating her. He is not a part of her life. He does not “get” to have a say in that part of her life because he himself is not a part of her life.
He is not dating Rachel Berry. He is not a part of Rachel Berry’s New York life.
So where is this possession coming from?
“Finchel” are “endgame”. They “belong together” because they have “dangerous musical chemistry”.
We are expected to believe this, because Finn Hudson told us as much.
However, we are saying “no”.
We do not believe Rachel Berry is a possession. We do not believe that any woman is a possession, and such, the line “stay away from my future wife!” is incredibly disturbing. It implies that no matter what, Rachel Berry will always belong to Finn Hudson.
She can date whoever she wants - Finn Hudson will find them, intimidate them, and make them understand that Rachel Berry belongs to him and him alone.
Brody deserves to be beaten up - Glee told us as much. He had been lying to Berry about what he had been doing, and apparently, if you love someone, you don’t lie about your activities (but whether or not you are a virgin is fair game? oh ok).
Brody West stood in the way of “Finchel”. He was a “prostitute”, because the writers literally couldn’t think of anything else that would put him beneath Finn Hudson. We are meant to side with Finn Hudson. We are meant to believe that Brody West “deserved” to be beaten up.
Apparently, we are meant, too, to just dismiss the fight as “nuts” courtesy of a lovely tweet from Miss Michele, because violent tendencies are just that - “nuts”. It didn’t matter that Hudson’s actions implied that Rachel Berry was a possession. It didn’t matter that Hudson literally had no right to come after West.
It didn’t matter that the episode reeked sexism and hand-waved what could easily be seen as abusive behavior.
Finn Hudson considers Rachel Berry to be his future lover. We are meant to focus on that. Anything else is meant to be swept under the rug. Anything else is irrelevant.
As one of the greatest speeches of Boston Legal concludes: “my, my. We do have a problem.”
N.B.: To learn more about domestic violence, we suggest checking out this post.
Original date: March 15th, 2013
“She can date whoever she wants - Finn Hudson will find them, intimidate them, and make them understand that Rachel Berry belongs to him and him alone.
Brody deserves to be beaten up - Glee told us as much. He had been lying to Berry about what he had been doing, and apparently, if you love someone, you don’t lie about your activities (but whether or not you are a virgin is fair game? oh ok).”
- “You are my girlfriend. We are endgame.”
Obsessive Love is Not Real Love:
If someone treats us this way we cannot calm them by showing them we love them. They need to understand their problem and seek professional help.
- He thinks he can’t live without you.
- He promises himself (sometimes by your request) things like “I won’t call her” or “I won’t force her to tell me everything she did since the last time I saw her” but he always breaks those promises.
- You and he spend less and less time having fun and more and more time asking for forgiveness and promising that things will get better.
- He regrets his behavior, which in turn affects your relationship.
- You and he depend on each other to be happy and have fun.
- You do not make decisions or plans; instead, you wait to hear from him what he’s decided you two will do.
If your relationship is similar to this, talk to someone, get help!
But if Finn and Rachel are supposed to be true love I hope to God I will never find it.
repeat after me
a ship doesnt have to be canon to fucking ship it
now say it with me
a ship being canon doesn’t mean people have to like it
yeah glee. let’s forget about the fact marley said she’s been starving herself all week and was trying to puke before a highly upbeat and demanding number and focus on finchel. i honestly don’t find that acceptable. yep, she made it through the show a-okay under all those hot lights after skipping meals. that sends a great message.
are you fucking kidding me
YOU GET THE HATE BECAUSE YOU’RE FUCKING ASSHOLES TO THE REST OF US
Finchel fans saying Finn liked Rachel the way she was.
just a reminder to all finn/finchel fans that finn freely admitted that he didn’t know how to wash his dick
“Lea Michele Has Never Been Better: You think she was good at the train station with Finn (Cory Monteith)? Just wait until you see Rachel (Lea Michele) put all the cards on the table with Finn in one of the most intense scenes in Finchel history. And it takes place in a very special place for those two.”
This is correct. The car scene is nothing compared to this one.
New Clip from The Break-Up on Ellen
Rachel sings with Brody as Finn watches
inspired by this (x)
“oh gosh, who do i choose, wHO DO I CHOOSE?!!??!?! life is so hard sigh”